Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Ride Those Waves

Is she wrong
when she's 
been wronged
Who wants to fight
when they can just
take flight
and burry themselves
way down deep
I too
have covered myself
in mud
to blend in
to the mold
that was waiting
all too eagerly
Is it wrong
that I've
been wronged
While my soul
has been searching
for a voice to use
A voice that echoes
against the grain
Is she wrong
to shove open the doors
while her skeletons
blow so openly
Her pain blowing
in the wind
like a flag
praising the sun
She uses her voice
So I shall use mine
It's the only weapon
we own
Let's make them
Roar
And forget
the shame
they use to paint us
We're more
than our pain
We're more
than our silence
We're more
than our struggle
to feel free
We're more
than those
stolen dark nights
We're more
than victims
We're survivors
of those 
dark stolen nights
Never to be hushed
to keep from
making waves
Make those waves
Ride those waves
with the sun
shining down
Lighting our souls
on fire

-July 2015




I wrote this in response to the thirty-five women that have recently come forward in the news and have spoken about the sexual assault they've endured by a man they trusted. I wrote this for the women who fear ridicule and backlash and shame for something that wasn't their fault. I wrote this for the women who have not yet found their voice. I wrote this for your Mother. I wrote this for your Sister. I wrote this for your Aunt. I wrote this for your Friend. I wrote this for me.

If you or someone you know is suffering and looking for ways to cope with sexual assault, please contact RAINN for help. https://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline

38 comments:

  1. Reminds me a bit of that song on the radio now...this is my fight song. Or something like that. U like the return to strength in the after and maybe that is a bit of accepting that it happened and finding you way and yourself again after.

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    1. You're so right. Thank you for visiting and taking the time to comment today :)

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  2. Powerful, strong and inspiring, Torie. Ride those waves under the sun. No more dark secrets. I love your note after. It is sad that victims of abuse carry shame for what was never their fault.

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    1. It is sad. I hope there's a time when there's no more victim shaming and blaming. Good to see you today, Sherry. Thank you for your words :)

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  3. This is such a strong & powerful poem. Kudos to you for writing this as a response and tribute to all those women :)

    Lots of love,
    Sanaa

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    1. Thank you so much, Sanaa. Great to see you :)

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  4. "It's the only weapon / we own" which we do very much need to use it...louder and louder still...till we ride the golden waves...a powerful write Torie...

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    1. Thank you, Sumana! I appreciate your time and visit!

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  5. What a strong voice you wrote this poem with, Torie! May those 35 women give confidence to others to do what they now have done. If only one of the first of these had spoken up, perhaps 30 would have been spared!

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    1. The sad fact is is that some of these women did speak up, but nobody believed them because of who the man was they accused. It is truly sad that this is why so many women stay silent. Why say something when you know you won't be believed.

      Thank you for your supportive words, Mary. They are very much appreciated :)

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  6. Poignant lines. It touched my heart. Well penned.

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    1. Thank you for your words today, purba :)

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  7. a strong and inspiring write

    have a good Wednesday

    much love...

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    1. Thank you for coming by today and for taking the time to comment, Gillena :)

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  8. Yes. There is a time for acceptance,and sometimes that acceptance is knowing that it is not time to let go.of what has happened yet.

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    1. I think letting go is true acceptance. Or maybe it's just a higher level of acceptance. Thanks for your visit, claireylove :)

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  9. For far too long women have been made to think that on being abused that they are somehow at fault. How I applaud every piece of writing that tries to set the matter correct and to emphasize the fact that when a woman says 'No', to proceed further is committing an offence.

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    1. Thank you, Old Egg. Thank you for these words of yours. I know that they mean a lot to many.

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  10. Good for you supporting these women. All over the world women are still suppressed and abused. It will be a long long time before real equality is ever achieved.

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    1. I hope it's sooner than we think. Thank you for your thoughtful comment, rallentanda :)

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  11. We must always hold the hope that we can say what happened - more importantly trust that someone will listen..what a powerful poem

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    1. Sometimes all we need is someone to really listen to us. That can make all the difference. Thank you, Jae Rose.

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  12. A poem that needs to be read. Stand for the victims and accept their truth.

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    1. It's so good to read such supportive words. Thank you, GL!!

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  13. Thanks Torie - I wrote several pieces for a group supporting these women.
    I was astonished when a male friend said "it's not rape if you aren't a virgin."
    Thanks for the conviction in your words.
    Cheers

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    1. Thank you, Moonie. Sorry to hear that your male friend has such closed thinking. This is definitely a topic I don't stay quiet on. Like I said, I'll totally make those waves. We have to.

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  14. It's wonderful to have victims transform to activist voices. Your poem inspires this. I love the passion in your words.

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    1. Thank you, Myrna! I do appreciate your words :)

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  15. Yes, I am reading about this too and marveled at their courage to share their now ~ I believe them to be strong women ~ I love the passion in your voice, very inspiring ~

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    1. Thank you, Grace :) Yes, I agree that these woman have shown some real courage!

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  16. Tori,

    A powerful poem with a dreadful set of circumstances highlighted. Acceptance can never be right, in this instance; these sufferers must be given a means of voice and courage...
    Eileen

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    1. I feel the hope is that with acceptance any woman can find the courage to use their voices. Thank you for your thoughtful comment, Eileen. It's very much appreciated :)

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  17. A great affirmation of self-acceptance.

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